The ‘I’m struggling’ thread

[jonthehammer]

It’s been a very frustrating and lonely year for many people. I’m usually very busy in December organising Christmas events in the community, a works kids party and a big family get together. They have got bigger with each year and it takes up my whole Christmas period to sort out before I head off to Donegal for Christmas with the in-laws where I eat and drink like pig and spunk all my Christmas extra earnings on horse racing with my wife’s family members. I love going to Ireland, the pubs are brilliant, the staff serve you your drinks and take your betting slips and put your bets on for you all in one go. I need the trip to recover from being completely burnt out and mentally exhausted. I have enjoyed not having that stress and hassle this December as every day taken up sorting stuff out for these events I’ve ended up organising. When it doesn’t happen you realise how many people have come to rely on such events this time of year to see people and socialise. It should be the Pimple Palace Christmas Extravaganza today and we end up with about 60 of us in my 3 bed semi from 2pm to 2am. It’s madness thinking so many people would normally cram into our house after this years social distancing rules, the house was so crammed we had to start using the back but the comical nature of the party is what attracts friends, family and neighbours to travel from all over the country to attend. You cannot move in the house so I have ended up setting up heaters and coverings out the back to cope and with all the kids running riot upstairs it’s like the bar scene in the Gremlins. My wife hates the party but it got too big to cancel and just gets bigger. I have many family members who are old and struggling with terminal illnesses so might not make next years and also a number struggling with mental illness and the Christmas party has always helped them get through the bleakness of winter in this part of the world. Dark, damp, cold and windy for 6 months. Without Christmas it’s a miserable time.

It’s shit for everyone, from top to bottom. The people trying to manage, solve and salvage this countries interests & well being to those out of work and locked up at home week after week.

I don’t know what to say to cheer you all up except I attempted to have sex for the first time this month yesterday. My wife suggested we utilise the shower so the kids didn’t bother us. She’s hurt her back so it was getting awkward and uncomfortable for her as we struggled to stay upright in the shower so I requested a quick hand job instead to speed the process up and I’ll get back on with cleaning because the kids were fighting downstairs. She started massaging my rectum after I offered guidance on how to improve the service and she stopped in shock after pointing out I have piles. I had to feel myself to check and it was true, my first pile at 42. I thought the pain was the result of wiping too hard with cheap toilet roll but alas I have piles. We have to stay in all weekend until we get our family Covid test results back for as my daughter has had a few symptoms this week. We told our neighbours about our self isolation and they knocked the door to see if they could get us anything out shopping. My request for a tube of Anusol was duly ignored unless it dropped out the bag during transport.

Anyway sorry to hijack this thread. It’s a great thread and stay positive lads. My wife may be confined to a prison cell for the next 14 years when she musters up the courage to finally does what she’s been planning to do for the past 20 years :surprise:

I have just choked on my crumpet, what a bizarre but brilliant post TKP. Love it and hope the old Farmer Giles get treated soon.

 

[Rooster Booster]

Spot on that Jrow, these things only wind you up even more. I agree about The Social Dilemma, its a must watch for all.

Totally agree with this. I have not watched the news for over 10 years and the only newspaper I have read in the same time period is the racing post and the only time I listen to the radio is to listen to footie. Misery loves company so I try not to give it the opportunity.

 

[Jorvik]

Its a testing time for all of us... well apart from the privileged few imposing this shit upon us. But there are a few things within our control that we exercise to help ease the mental torture

• Don't use social media, it's addictive I get it because I am guilty of using it too frequently myself on occasion. But its a cess pit of negativity and an echo chamber to boot. I would recommend people to watch The Social Dilemma on Netflix if you havent already. A great behind the curtain look at the perils of big tech and social media and it may help reaffirm your views about social media use. Or should I say dont use social media for any purpose that doesnt serve you positively. It can be a good source of information for racing and sports updates
• Don't watch the news. Goes without saying but my god what a shit show. It's a disgrace and should be held to account. Along with the government it is responsible for creating mass hysteria amongst us, but especially in our elderly relatives
• Don't read newspapers (does anyone still read them anyway?)
• Don't visit news/newspaper websites like BBC or Daily Mail etc.... They are toxic and should come with a warning as such

This might seem like burying your head in the sand, but give it a try for a day or 2 and see how much your mood improves.

Wouldn't disagree, twitter is the main one to steer clear of in my opinion, an absolutely dreadful platform that has had far too big an influence on society at large. The opinions on there should be irrelevant but they get amplified by a lazy media. Good people have lost jobs, policy has been changed etc... off the back of a 'twitter storm' which in reality often quite literally amounts to no more than a double figure number of people, completely nuts. In general people pour on the melodrama for likes and retweets and all told it's just a horrible window into narcissism. End of mini rant.

So yes, i've been doing my best to avoid social media (aside from here, where i've spent far too much time!) and so outside of pretending to work i've spent most of lockdown watching Narcos/Narcos: Mexico on loop. Sympathising, rooting for and finding humour in the antics of deranged psychopaths pushing chemicals that wreak havoc on societies across the planet is much better for the soul.

 

[Joleg]

This is a fantastic thread

And whilst in my own mind i think that i have had it difficult, reading some of this make me realise that i have had it quite comfortable comparatively. I miss seeing my grandchildren but i guess its a small price to pay. When reading some of these posts my heart goes out to the 'poster', i can only echo some of the comments made, 'stay strong', stay positive' , try to avoid the media wherever possible and at all times my inbox is open.

 

[Can't Catch Me]

I live alone in a small village and am fortunate to be surrounded by kind people. Although I'm not on the sheltered list I do have a star for beating cancer a while back leaving a few side issues to cope with. Fighting my cancer was difficult at best and my heart goes out to the people who have to battle this fight, if I caught this virus I'm not sure my mind or my body could win another battle like that again, so I spend lots of my time alone in my home.
Personally I love living and always remain positive, however, without my racing the days would be long and hard to cope with especially in winter for that I'm sure. It's an interest that just keeps me going, the form study, the endless viewing of replays, both are most enjoyable doing and finding this site was for me just the icing on the cake.
I have my basic pension to live off and have a fine whisky dram a day to manage so my punting pot must count on the positive side. Having been restricted by most bookmakers I think I have found the right balance on that side of things.
I am a member and although I contribute rarely I do enjoy going through the posts especially this coming time of the year when the future stars tend to come alive. So please can all the very shrewd and very informative ladies and gentlemen on here keep posting and let us old ones benefit from your sharp and knowledgeable minds. It keeps us going in these strange and difficult times. For that I say a big thankyou to you all.

Merry Christmas to you Mr X and good luck with your festive punting! I know a couple of people in a very similar situation to yourself and their love of racing makes a big difference to them for all the same reasons you mention. What a wonderful sport we all follow!

 

[Can't Catch Me]

I hear that TOTG. I’ve lost my dad, my uncle, my dads best friend and a very close friend (aged 36) this year. Not one of them through covid. It’s been an awful year personally. Just got to make sure my mom is ok over Christmas. Then it’s onwards and upwards. By the summer we will be in a much better situation as far as the virus. That’s what keeps me going!!

Bloody hell, sorry to hear that too Penzance. Sounds like you've had a truly awful year. Hope 20201 is much better for you mate.

 

[Liammet]

Need to bump this up as very important
well done Ista
hopefully the racing over the Christmas can cheer us up
lots of us cannot spend Christmas with loved ones because of restrictions
Totally get that this is a horse racing forum and don’t want to get too far away from that
however,would like to see a “bit of fun “ thread
funny racing stories,tweets,jokes whatever
as long as it’s clean and doesn’t offend anyone
Having a bit of a laugh usually cheers me up
surely a few comedians on here

 

[Quevega]

Need to bump this up as very important
well done Ista
hopefully the racing over the Christmas can cheer us up
lots of us cannot spend Christmas with loved ones because of restrictions
Totally get that this is a horse racing forum and don’t want to get too far away from that
however,would like to see a “bit of fun “ thread
funny racing stories,tweets,jokes whatever
as long as it’s clean and doesn’t offend anyone
Having a bit of a laugh usually cheers me up
surely a few comedians on here

When Kev was being condescending the other day :wink-new:

I mentioned a very good friend of mine who once pronounced Bukkake (Book-cake) !

On another occasion on a day at the races, we were discussing Babestation - back in the days when the girls on these channels were a guilty pleasure of many.

We were discussing who our favourites were (I've followed many of their careers), and in front of the whole group, my mate famously said....

"None of them are, as they're all out of my league"

When the laughter died down.

I was gobsmacked, as I thought the whole idea of solo masturbating was to fantasise ! - and normally over women or scenarios that you're unlikely to encounter on a day to day basis.

After trying all day to get him to buy into this common understanding, he was adamant that he didn't get off watching the ladies on Babestation, and much preferred to find women that were "on his level".

He kind of justified himself by explaining he was more of a readers wives man, than the Playboy cover girl.

Fucking unbelievable.

PS,
My favourite was Tommie-Jo. She went on to be Daily Sport favourite and is now a fully fledged Pornstar with a contract with US Porn site Brazzers, and a very successful Onlyfans subscription service.

Love a rags to riches story :cheerful:

 

[Hurricane fly]

Attainability typically adds a couple of points to any woman

 

[Middle_Of_March]

It’s been a very frustrating and lonely year for many people. I’m usually very busy in December organising Christmas events in the community, a works kids party and a big family get together. They have got bigger with each year and it takes up my whole Christmas period to sort out before I head off to Donegal for Christmas with the in-laws where I eat and drink like pig and spunk all my Christmas extra earnings on horse racing with my wife’s family members. I love going to Ireland, the pubs are brilliant, the staff serve you your drinks and take your betting slips and put your bets on for you all in one go. I need the trip to recover from being completely burnt out and mentally exhausted. I have enjoyed not having that stress and hassle this December as every day taken up sorting stuff out for these events I’ve ended up organising. When it doesn’t happen you realise how many people have come to rely on such events this time of year to see people and socialise. It should be the Pimple Palace Christmas Extravaganza today and we end up with about 60 of us in my 3 bed semi from 2pm to 2am. It’s madness thinking so many people would normally cram into our house after this years social distancing rules, the house was so crammed we had to start using the back but the comical nature of the party is what attracts friends, family and neighbours to travel from all over the country to attend. You cannot move in the house so I have ended up setting up heaters and coverings out the back to cope and with all the kids running riot upstairs it’s like the bar scene in the Gremlins. My wife hates the party but it got too big to cancel and just gets bigger. I have many family members who are old and struggling with terminal illnesses so might not make next years and also a number struggling with mental illness and the Christmas party has always helped them get through the bleakness of winter in this part of the world. Dark, damp, cold and windy for 6 months. Without Christmas it’s a miserable time.

It’s shit for everyone, from top to bottom. The people trying to manage, solve and salvage this countries interests & well being to those out of work and locked up at home week after week.

I don’t know what to say to cheer you all up except I attempted to have sex for the first time this month yesterday. My wife suggested we utilise the shower so the kids didn’t bother us. She’s hurt her back so it was getting awkward and uncomfortable for her as we struggled to stay upright in the shower so I requested a quick hand job instead to speed the process up and I’ll get back on with cleaning because the kids were fighting downstairs. She started massaging my rectum after I offered guidance on how to improve the service and she stopped in shock after pointing out I have piles. I had to feel myself to check and it was true, my first pile at 42. I thought the pain was the result of wiping too hard with cheap toilet roll but alas I have piles. We have to stay in all weekend until we get our family Covid test results back for as my daughter has had a few symptoms this week. We told our neighbours about our self isolation and they knocked the door to see if they could get us anything out shopping. My request for a tube of Anusol was duly ignored unless it dropped out the bag during transport.

Anyway sorry to hijack this thread. It’s a great thread and stay positive lads. My wife may be confined to a prison cell for the next 14 years when she musters up the courage to finally does what she’s been planning to do for the past 20 years :surprise:

If there was a post of the year award on here TKP, I think you’d have 7 of the top 10! :biggrin-new:

 

[Outlaw]

PS,
My favourite was Tommie-Jo. She went on to be Daily Sport favourite and is now a fully fledged Pornstar with a contract with US Porn site Brazzers, and a very successful Onlyfans subscription service.

Love a rags to riches story :cheerful:

Proper stereotypical punter that image you've conjured up there Q :cower:

 

[Kevloaf]

When Kev was being condescending the other day :wink-new:

I mentioned a very good friend of mine who once pronounced Bukkake (Book-cake) !

On another occasion on a day at the races, we were discussing Babestation - back in the days when the girls on these channels were a guilty pleasure of many.

We were discussing who our favourites were (I've followed many of their careers), and in front of the whole group, my mate famously said....

"None of them are, as they're all out of my league"

When the laughter died down.

I was gobsmacked, as I thought the whole idea of solo masturbating was to fantasise ! - and normally over women or scenarios that you're unlikely to encounter on a day to day basis.

After trying all day to get him to buy into this common understanding, he was adamant that he didn't get off watching the ladies on Babestation, and much preferred to find women that were "on his level".

He kind of justified himself by explaining he was more of a readers wives man, than the Playboy cover girl.

Fucking unbelievable.

PS,
My favourite was Tommie-Jo. She went on to be Daily Sport favourite and is now a fully fledged Pornstar with a contract with US Porn site Brazzers, and a very successful Onlyfans subscription service.

Love a rags to riches story :cheerful:

Possibly interesting 'stat' for you.... Sophie Reade (won big brother at one point), worked for Babestation...went to my Secondary school AND is the ex of my boss now.

I won't link it, but if you google Sophie Reade Babestation you'll find her.

Lives about 2 minutes from my house.


I only know her well enough to nod at.

 

[Liammet]

Possibly interesting 'stat' for you.... Sophie Reade (won big brother at one point), worked for Babestation...went to my Secondary school AND is the ex of my boss now.

I won't link it, but if you google Sophie Reade Babestation you'll find her.

Lives about 2 minutes from my house.


I only know her well enough to nod at.

Hope you are nodding with your head Kev

 

[The King Pimm]

Possibly interesting 'stat' for you.... Sophie Reade (won big brother at one point), worked for Babestation...went to my Secondary school AND is the ex of my boss now.

I won't link it, but if you google Sophie Reade Babestation you'll find her.

Lives about 2 minutes from my house.


I only know her well enough to nod at.

Wow she’s very attractive Kev. I think she was more attractive before she had all the cosmetic work done (you’ll have to scan through her extensive online google library of images to notice the difference). I’m surprised she’s able to nod her head from all the filler in her face though.
I’m not a fan of all the synthetic work on modern ladies, I prefer the natural ageing process, the wrinkles and crinkles and the stretch marks and scars. I’m a big fan of blue veins in ladies breasts, it shows they are making maximum use of their oxygen supply. Anyway this thread is deteriorating and bottoming out like my antepost betting list!! Apologies for my part in lowering the tone!! :eagerness:

 

[The King Pimm]

Mr X.....I loved your post, you seem to have a nice balance with your betting and I’m glad you’re on the mend from your battle with cancer. It’s a dreadful illness and so cruel. On that subject, has anyone heard from Humble Pie?? I remember he was experiencing a tough time with his health? Does anyone know how he’s getting on???

 

[The King Pimm]

If there was a post of the year award on here TKP, I think you’d have 7 of the top 10! :biggrin-new:

Thank you MoM, be careful though as I don’t need much encouragement to keep lowering the standard and tone :glee:

 

[Kevloaf]

Mr X.....I loved your post, you seem to have a nice balance with your betting and I’m glad you’re on the mend from your battle with cancer. It’s a dreadful illness and so cruel. On that subject, has anyone heard from Humble Pie?? I remember he was experiencing a tough time with his health? Does anyone know how he’s getting on???

I'm not sure, I've attempted to find out but not had much luck so far.

 

[charlie]

Wow she’s very attractive Kev. I think she was more attractive before she had all the cosmetic work done (you’ll have to scan through her extensive online google library of images to notice the difference). I’m surprised she’s able to nod her head from all the filler in her face though.
I’m not a fan of all the synthetic work on modern ladies, I prefer the natural ageing process, the wrinkles and crinkles and the stretch marks and scars. I’m a big fan of blue veins in ladies breasts, it shows they are making maximum use of their oxygen supply. Anyway this thread is deteriorating and bottoming out like my antepost betting list!! Apologies for my part in lowering the tone!! :eagerness:

hahahaha ffs :welcoming:

 

[Hurricane fly]

Banning myself from all online bookies for a month.

I’ve been on a bad streak but continually chasing and not just cutting loses has only made things worse.

Making bets just to make them without any real thought is a big alarm bell for me that I’ve probably covered up to myself by some last ditch bets coming in and papering a crack. January is a long month as it is so I don’t need to continue down the spiral and put myself in real trouble in my day to day life. Me and my missus have an agreement that as long as betting doesn’t interfere with our lives she’s ok with it - and she usually get a fancy meal when it goes well - but I can see that if I don’t take a circuit break it will start to affect my moods etc

I’ll still pay attention to any Chelts horses that run but my work life dictates I don’t really have the ability to go to a shop to put a bet on so taking away the online will suffice (And I’m confident I’m not at the point where I’m itching for a bet so much I’d go out of my way to go to one). The number on a screen has made it took easy for me to keep chasing and lose discipline.

I’ll still be on here for updates but just to keep up to date not to make bets. Here’s to Hook Up doing the business at the weekend and shortening into favourite for the MNH!

For anyone who feels in a similar situation writing it down like this can be/has been a big help in what is still somewhat an anonymous function.

 

[Ray]

Best thing you done already mate is realise there is more important stuff to be paying out for, ive gotta blow
it out aswell ive got hmrc bills and mot bills to start this year off (buzzin)

get yourself straight, then maybe reward yourself with a little punt..getting stressed about something that you 9 times out of 10 enjoy is best to have a break from it..dont be flying into gulfstream, fuck that for a game of teapots