The ‘I’m struggling’ thread

[robith]

?45 a bloody session
bloody mercenary
would be a nice touch if voluntary

Do you regularly work for free? It takes years to qualify as a councillor. I have to say this is a bit of harsh reply mate

 

[AaronLad]

Do you regularly work for free? It takes years to qualify as a councillor. I have to say this is a bit of harsh reply mate

Counsellor or councillor two very different roles.
No i dont work for free, but i also dont look for free advertisment
It;s like a funeral director handing out leaflets around the i.c.u
If people need counselling i'm sure they can seek the help needed.
I don't think a horse racing forum is the place for advertising your business.
sorry if i offend anyone.

 

[SAMCRO]

Counsellor or councillor two very different roles.
No i dont work for free, but i also dont look for free advertisment
It;s like a funeral director handing out leaflets around the i.c.u

relax mate, wasn't that deep just offering a service that could help someone in a "I'm struggling" thread. Counsellors usually charge anywhere from ?45 - ?70/?80 per session. If its not for you then thats fine but it could help someone or someone they know. Cheers.

 

[Kevloaf]

Counsellor or councillor two very different roles.
No i dont work for free, but i also dont look for free advertisment
It;s like a funeral director handing out leaflets around the i.c.u
If people need counselling i'm sure they can seek the help needed.
I don't think a horse racing forum is the place for advertising your business.
sorry if i offend anyone.

Your post reminds me of the Ricky Gervais joke where someone see's a flyer for gutair lessons and gets offended by it "but I don't want gutair lessons" :highly_amused: I'll try and find it...

... 20 seconds in

I have no issue with someone signposting something that may help, you say it's a horse racing forum which obviously it is, but this thread is there as we're all humans behind the screen and it can't do any harm, ultimately it's a link to a website, if you're not interested, no problem - but others have the right to make that decision so I'll leave it up :amen:

 

[robith]

Counsellor or councillor two very different roles.
No i dont work for free, but i also dont look for free advertisment
It;s like a funeral director handing out leaflets around the i.c.u
If people need counselling i'm sure they can seek the help needed.
I don't think a horse racing forum is the place for advertising your business.
sorry if i offend anyone.

Weird rebuttal to criticise someone's spelling when you're incapable of using an apostrophe

 

[AaronLad]

WhereToTalk
https://www.wheretotalk.org › charities

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[AaronLad]

Weird rebuttal to criticise someone's spelling when you're incapable of using an apostrophe

Actually wasn't criticising at all, was genuinely asking which it takes years to qualify as.
and the use of the apostrophe or lack of is my fat fingers. just fat not thick

 

[Quevega]

Weird rebuttal to criticise someone's spelling when you're incapable of using an apostrophe

Come on lads - ease off the spelling and punctuation stuff :highly_amused::applouse::encouragement:

 

[Atlantic Viking]

?45 a bloody session
bloody mercenary
would be a nice touch if voluntary

45 is cheap tbh. You can't even access 'free' services in my area at the moment and even when you could the waiting lists make them borderline pointless for most. Sure it's similar most places.

 

[AaronLad]

45 is cheap tbh.

For someone who might be struggling from financial problems due to their gambling activity 45 quid probably isn't.
and there are other options, for anyone who this may apply to

 

[Atlantic Viking]

WhereToTalk
https://www.wheretotalk.org › charities

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'There may be a waiting list'. There absolutely will be a waiting list and a year isn't uncommon. Boils my p1ss how underfunded the whole 'sector' is but that's not a rant for here.

 

[Atlantic Viking]

For someone who might be struggling from financial problems due to their gambling activity 45 quid probably isn't.
and there are other options, for anyone who this may apply to

For private one to one counselling, 45 is cheap. Doesn't mean I think access is fair, it clearly isn't and should be a national priority IMO, but at least it's an option for some.

 

[AaronLad]

'There may be a waiting list'. There absolutely will be a waiting list and a year isn't uncommon. Boils my p1ss how underfunded the whole 'sector' is but that's not a rant for here.

I agree with you wholeheartedly

 

[robith]

Actually wasn't criticising at all, was genuinely asking which it takes years to qualify as.
and the use of the apostrophe or lack of is my fat fingers. just fat not thick

So you think that I, apropos of nothing, started talking about something completely different?

My fault for engaging with a noted bad faith actor anyway

 

[AaronLad]

So you think that I, apropos of nothing, started talking about something completely different?

My fault for engaging with a noted bad faith actor anyway

stop trying to engage then

 

[Deleted member 4957]

Can I suggest this exchange is moved to a dedicated thread then people can choose whether they enter and participate.
This particular thread has proved to be useful for a number of FJs in its' time and we'd hate to see its' value lost/disappeared as a result of discussion not relevant to its' purpose.
Thanks in advance...

 

[Quevega]

Wasn't sure where to put this.

I've waited a while but..

I have no avenue to apologise personally unfortunately.
But hopefully Sax will accept that I sincerely apologise to him for my line of questioning, which he found so upsetting.
I've explained why ?, and that I meant no ill will, so it's pointless to go over this again.

Should he wish to return then I'm sure he'll be welcomed back.
He knows this I'm sure, but it's up to him.

Found this article online which I thought I'd share, as it may help some who use social media etc.

https://mediate.com/being-offended-is-a-choice/

:encouragement:

 

[Lobos]

Well done Q. We've probably all pushed people's buttons too far in the past , sometimes not knowingly or meaning any bad . None of us are perfect and all of us are different. People take things different ways and some can accept individuals for who they are and others can take offence more easily. Good that you've apologised and hopefully Sax will accept as he's sorely missed on here. It might take a while but I do hope he'll be back sharing his knowledge however long it'll take. Also, I can feel your pain too Q. You've not posted much at all recently and you to are missed. Certainly by me anyway. I hope you can come back in the same form as we are used to as well.

Long live the Forum.

 

[Guinness Village]

Challenges like anxiety or depression happen to a lot of middle aged and young men. I’m sure that most of us fit this demographic.
I’ve always considered myself very robust and never really understood or emphasised with mental illness or struggles.
until 3 and a half years ago in the middle of lock down when I was walking round my village in my underpants. Couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat or drink. Didn’t know what was going on. Couldn’t get any advice or help from my GP or occupational health at work.

now it was the most miserable time. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Uncontrollable and constant anxiety. Now, I’m a consultant that works in the NHS and have plenty of financial resources for private treatment. Still found help very slow and confusing and poor.
now I’ve got there eventually, with cessation of alcohol, caffeine and losing weight. Regular gentle exercise. Improved sleep regime with meditation and hot baths.

you’re not alone. Even the biggest and hairiest of us suffer sometimes.

the door is always open.

hope I’ve not trodden on anyone’s toes or upset anyone

best wishes

GV

 

[Kevloaf]

Just a little bump, as it's important to remember that not everyone copes in the same way and this weekend in particular is the calm before the storm, so just a reminder to everyone to gamble responsibly this weekend and next week, and if anyone is struggling, people are here to talk to.

Love you all :love_heart: