The ‘I’m struggling’ thread

[Topofthegame2021]

I was supposed to be going away with my family for Christmas within the UK - three different families all partying for 4 days - after the shitty year I/ we all have had I was really clinging on to this.

gutted is an understatement. I think even the strongest of mental minds would struggle with this news. Feel like the rug has been pulled from underneath my feet.

stay safe everyone , my inbox is always open if anyone if finding it tough.

 

[Penzance]

I hear that TOTG. I’ve lost my dad, my uncle, my dads best friend and a very close friend (aged 36) this year. Not one of them through covid. It’s been an awful year personally. Just got to make sure my mom is ok over Christmas. Then it’s onwards and upwards. By the summer we will be in a much better situation as far as the virus. That’s what keeps me going!!

 

[Topofthegame2021]

I hear that TOTG. I’ve lost my dad, my uncle, my dads best friend and a very close friend (aged 36) this year. Not one of them through covid. It’s been an awful year personally. Just got to make sure my mom is ok over Christmas. Then it’s onwards and upwards. By the summer we will be in a much better situation as far as the virus. That’s what keeps me going!!

I’m really sorry for your heartache Penzance. I wish all the best to you and your family in 2021. we will make next year a good one for sure!

 

[charlie]

I’m really sorry for your heartache Penzance. I wish all the best to you and your family in 2021. we will make next year a good one for sure!

Very much second this. Stay strong Penzance

 

[Penzance]

Thank you! I’m ok to be honest. Staying strong for others. Have a lot of support. I have my moments but I feel better after them as they come from a place of happy memories.

A nice priced treble on a lucky 15 helped today too Paid for Christmas!

 

[charlie]

Thank you! I’m ok to be honest. Staying strong for others. Have a lot of support. I have my moments but I feel better after them as they come from a place of happy memories.

A nice priced treble on a lucky 15 helped today too Paid for Christmas!

Good to hear pal, if anyone deserves a bit of luck it's you!

Good luck in Group F :applouse:

 

[Penzance]

Good to hear pal, if anyone deserves a bit of luck it's you!

Good luck in Group F :applouse:

Didn’t have any luck again there did i :miserable: Group of death

 

[Redbridge]

Penzance, Commiserations mate, what a shit hand you've been dealt this year, I hope things change for you in 2021.

 

[Faugheen_Machine]

Thank you! I’m ok to be honest. Staying strong for others. Have a lot of support. I have my moments but I feel better after them as they come from a place of happy memories.

A nice priced treble on a lucky 15 helped today too Paid for Christmas!

Stay strong Penzance. Life has got a good way of kicking you when your down :love_heart:

 

[ryanh97]

Thank you! I’m ok to be honest. Staying strong for others. Have a lot of support. I have my moments but I feel better after them as they come from a place of happy memories.

A nice priced treble on a lucky 15 helped today too Paid for Christmas!

As someone who stays strong for others Penzance, make sure you don't bottle everything up forever. It'll get to you in the end. Inbox is always open :love_heart:
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[Penzance]

As someone who stays strong for others Penzance, make sure you don't bottle everything up forever. It'll get to you in the end. Inbox is always open :love_heart:
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Thank you. I won’t do. I work with a few psychologists. They have been very good with me and I’m comfortable with talking about stuff.

 

[ryanh97]

Thank you. I won’t do. I work with a few psychologists. They have been very good with me and I’m comfortable with talking about stuff.

Good to hear Penzance

 

[Magpie]

As someone who stays strong for others Penzance, make sure you don't bottle everything up forever. It'll get to you in the end. Inbox is always open :love_heart:
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Good advice Ryan, terrible year for you Penzance, but keep.as.positive as you can. Its a flippant phrase, that time heals, but to large degree it does, stay strong.

 

[Jrow]

Its a testing time for all of us... well apart from the privileged few imposing this shit upon us. But there are a few things within our control that we exercise to help ease the mental torture

• Don't use social media, it's addictive I get it because I am guilty of using it too frequently myself on occasion. But its a cess pit of negativity and an echo chamber to boot. I would recommend people to watch The Social Dilemma on Netflix if you havent already. A great behind the curtain look at the perils of big tech and social media and it may help reaffirm your views about social media use. Or should I say dont use social media for any purpose that doesnt serve you positively. It can be a good source of information for racing and sports updates
• Don't watch the news. Goes without saying but my god what a shit show. It's a disgrace and should be held to account. Along with the government it is responsible for creating mass hysteria amongst us, but especially in our elderly relatives
• Don't read newspapers (does anyone still read them anyway?)
• Don't visit news/newspaper websites like BBC or Daily Mail etc.... They are toxic and should come with a warning as such

This might seem like burying your head in the sand, but give it a try for a day or 2 and see how much your mood improves.

 

[charlie]

Its a testing time for all of us... well apart from the privileged few imposing this shit upon us. But there are a few things within our control that we exercise to help ease the mental torture

• Don't use social media, it's addictive I get it because I am guilty of using it too frequently myself on occasion. But its a cess pit of negativity and an echo chamber to boot. I would recommend people to watch The Social Dilemma on Netflix if you havent already. A great behind the curtain look at the perils of big tech and social media and it may help reaffirm your views about social media use. Or should I say dont use social media for any purpose that doesnt serve you positively. It can be a good source of information for racing and sports updates
• Don't watch the news. Goes without saying but my god what a shit show. It's a disgrace and should be held to account. Along with the government it is responsible for creating mass hysteria amongst us, but especially in our elderly relatives
• Don't read newspapers (does anyone still read them anyway?)
• Don't visit news/newspaper websites like BBC or Daily Mail etc.... They are toxic and should come with a warning as such

This might seem like burying your head in the sand, but give it a try for a day or 2 and see how much your mood improves.

Sound sound advice. The news can go in the bin as far as I'm concerned. I'll still buy the racing post though :wink-new:

 

[The King Pimm]

It’s been a very frustrating and lonely year for many people. I’m usually very busy in December organising Christmas events in the community, a works kids party and a big family get together. They have got bigger with each year and it takes up my whole Christmas period to sort out before I head off to Donegal for Christmas with the in-laws where I eat and drink like pig and spunk all my Christmas extra earnings on horse racing with my wife’s family members. I love going to Ireland, the pubs are brilliant, the staff serve you your drinks and take your betting slips and put your bets on for you all in one go. I need the trip to recover from being completely burnt out and mentally exhausted. I have enjoyed not having that stress and hassle this December as every day taken up sorting stuff out for these events I’ve ended up organising. When it doesn’t happen you realise how many people have come to rely on such events this time of year to see people and socialise. It should be the Pimple Palace Christmas Extravaganza today and we end up with about 60 of us in my 3 bed semi from 2pm to 2am. It’s madness thinking so many people would normally cram into our house after this years social distancing rules, the house was so crammed we had to start using the back but the comical nature of the party is what attracts friends, family and neighbours to travel from all over the country to attend. You cannot move in the house so I have ended up setting up heaters and coverings out the back to cope and with all the kids running riot upstairs it’s like the bar scene in the Gremlins. My wife hates the party but it got too big to cancel and just gets bigger. I have many family members who are old and struggling with terminal illnesses so might not make next years and also a number struggling with mental illness and the Christmas party has always helped them get through the bleakness of winter in this part of the world. Dark, damp, cold and windy for 6 months. Without Christmas it’s a miserable time.

It’s shit for everyone, from top to bottom. The people trying to manage, solve and salvage this countries interests & well being to those out of work and locked up at home week after week.

I don’t know what to say to cheer you all up except I attempted to have sex for the first time this month yesterday. My wife suggested we utilise the shower so the kids didn’t bother us. She’s hurt her back so it was getting awkward and uncomfortable for her as we struggled to stay upright in the shower so I requested a quick hand job instead to speed the process up and I’ll get back on with cleaning because the kids were fighting downstairs. She started massaging my rectum after I offered guidance on how to improve the service and she stopped in shock after pointing out I have piles. I had to feel myself to check and it was true, my first pile at 42. I thought the pain was the result of wiping too hard with cheap toilet roll but alas I have piles. We have to stay in all weekend until we get our family Covid test results back for as my daughter has had a few symptoms this week. We told our neighbours about our self isolation and they knocked the door to see if they could get us anything out shopping. My request for a tube of Anusol was duly ignored unless it dropped out the bag during transport.

Anyway sorry to hijack this thread. It’s a great thread and stay positive lads. My wife may be confined to a prison cell for the next 14 years when she musters up the courage to finally does what she’s been planning to do for the past 20 years :surprise:

 

[Garrison Savannah]

Not sure what combinations of smilies is most appropriate, but your post TKP certainly had me coughing on my cornflakes!

 

[Mr X]

I live alone in a small village and am fortunate to be surrounded by kind people. Although I'm not on the sheltered list I do have a star for beating cancer a while back leaving a few side issues to cope with. Fighting my cancer was difficult at best and my heart goes out to the people who have to battle this fight, if I caught this virus I'm not sure my mind or my body could win another battle like that again, so I spend lots of my time alone in my home.
Personally I love living and always remain positive, however, without my racing the days would be long and hard to cope with especially in winter for that I'm sure. It's an interest that just keeps me going, the form study, the endless viewing of replays, both are most enjoyable doing and finding this site was for me just the icing on the cake.
I have my basic pension to live off and have a fine whisky dram a day to manage so my punting pot must count on the positive side. Having been restricted by most bookmakers I think I have found the right balance on that side of things.
I am a member and although I contribute rarely I do enjoy going through the posts especially this coming time of the year when the future stars tend to come alive. So please can all the very shrewd and very informative ladies and gentlemen on here keep posting and let us old ones benefit from your sharp and knowledgeable minds. It keeps us going in these strange and difficult times. For that I say a big thankyou to you all.

 

[ryanh97]

I live alone in a small village and am fortunate to be surrounded by kind people. Although I'm not on the sheltered list I do have a star for beating cancer a while back leaving a few side issues to cope with. Fighting my cancer was difficult at best and my heart goes out to the people who have to battle this fight, if I caught this virus I'm not sure my mind or my body could win another battle like that again, so I spend lots of my time alone in my home.
Personally I love living and always remain positive, however, without my racing the days would be long and hard to cope with especially in winter for that I'm sure. It's an interest that just keeps me going, the form study, the endless viewing of replays, both are most enjoyable doing and finding this site was for me just the icing on the cake.
I have my basic pension to live off and have a fine whisky dram a day to manage so my punting pot must count on the positive side. Having been restricted by most bookmakers I think I have found the right balance on that side of things.
I am a member and although I contribute rarely I do enjoy going through the posts especially this coming time of the year when the future stars tend to come alive. So please can all the very shrewd and very informative ladies and gentlemen on here keep posting and let us old ones benefit from your sharp and knowledgeable minds. It keeps us going in these strange and difficult times. For that I say a big thankyou to you all.

Glad the forum provides you some respite Mr X, and a big well done on beating the big C :redface-new:
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[jonthehammer]

Its a testing time for all of us... well apart from the privileged few imposing this shit upon us. But there are a few things within our control that we exercise to help ease the mental torture

• Don't use social media, it's addictive I get it because I am guilty of using it too frequently myself on occasion. But its a cess pit of negativity and an echo chamber to boot. I would recommend people to watch The Social Dilemma on Netflix if you havent already. A great behind the curtain look at the perils of big tech and social media and it may help reaffirm your views about social media use. Or should I say dont use social media for any purpose that doesnt serve you positively. It can be a good source of information for racing and sports updates
• Don't watch the news. Goes without saying but my god what a shit show. It's a disgrace and should be held to account. Along with the government it is responsible for creating mass hysteria amongst us, but especially in our elderly relatives
• Don't read newspapers (does anyone still read them anyway?)
• Don't visit news/newspaper websites like BBC or Daily Mail etc.... They are toxic and should come with a warning as such

This might seem like burying your head in the sand, but give it a try for a day or 2 and see how much your mood improves.

Spot on that Jrow, these things only wind you up even more. I agree about The Social Dilemma, its a must watch for all.