The ‘I’m struggling’ thread

[Saxon Warrior]

I go with guesses

Like that one too. Tell it like it really is

[Kevloaf]

Just a bump for this thread....

How is everyone? How are you?

[Clinker]

Just a bump for this thread....

How is everyone? How are you?

Hi Kev

Good bump for a good thread.

Personally i think I'm in an OK place right now, sun is starting to shine through which i think gives lots of people a little lift.

Recognise not all will be the same as me, and for those the door is always open for a chat if wanted.

Take care all....

[Quevega]

Hi Kev

Good bump for a good thread.

Personally i think I'm in an OK place right now, sun is starting to shine through which i think gives lots of people a little lift.

Recognise not all will be the same as me, and for those the door is always open for a chat if wanted.

Take care all....

If this were Twitter

The offence by proxy army would no doubt be reminding you of the Albino and Ginger communities!

“Communities”
”online communities”

what the fuck ?

As Kathy Burke once said
“Fuck social media ! Get together in a room and have a bowl of soup”

[Clinker]

If this were Twitter

The offence by proxy army would no doubt be reminding you of the Albino and Ginger communities!

“Communities”
”online communities”

what the fuck ?

As Kathy Burke once said
“Fuck social media ! Get together in a room and have a bowl of soup”

Having got two "red" headed kids, this did make me chuckle!! Sure half my salary in July and August goes on suncream!!

[Hurricane fly]

Hi Kev

Good bump for a good thread.

Personally i think I'm in an OK place right now, sun is starting to shine through which i think gives lots of people a little lift.

Recognise not all will be the same as me, and for those the door is always open for a chat if wanted.

Take care all....

I'd never really felt I felt the benefit of the longer days and Season Affective Disorder, but man alive has coming home from work and it still being light made a difference to my mood

[Guinness Village]

I’ve never posted anything on this thread, but always found it robust and comforting.
every year, I go to punchestown and have a jolly good time. Boy’s trip.
this year I got back home to find my mother in hospital, having had major abdominal surgery. My father, who has dementia, was in respite care. My eldest son had a tonsillar growth and had gone in for an urgent biopsy. Then my mother had a heart attack and my father caught covid and is now on end of life care.
im trying to look at the positives, the great days with my dad and Ferdy and nine de sivola. I bought him a share for his birthday many years ago.
but it’s like a great kick in the balls, and not without a fair amount of guilt being away racing in Ireland whilst all this was going on.
beer

[BigChaang]

Very Sorry to hear this Guinness Village , for what it's worth , I don't think you should be too hard on yourself for going away .
I was going to Oz years ago when my Father became ill , and i nearly cancelled , but he told me to go .
Looking at the Positives and the Good times is never a bad thing in my mind , and after all .
We can't change the past .

[Guinness Village]

Thanks. Difficult times, but some things are just out of control . But it often feels that somehow I’m at fault.

[Faugheen_Machine]

Take care GV, that's a rotten series of events and hopefully you get some positive news over the next few weeks. Don't beat yourself up though, it's not your fault. As BC says, you can't change what has happened.

Nine De Sivola must have been fun horse to own. Runner up in Irish and Scottish nationals, along with a 3rd in the NH Chase. I bet they were great times and you'll have so many good memories from back then.

[Lbur4288]

Perfectly summed up Faugheen_Machine.

Guinness Village - I'm very sorry to hear you are having such a horrid time. I hope that soon you will have something positive.

[RufusFlynn]

Sorry to read Guinness Village - that is a fair string of misfortune. Easier said than done sometimes, but you definitely shouldn't feel guilt - especially for doing something that bought you & your dad so much joy.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

[Spectre]

I’ve never posted anything on this thread, but always found it robust and comforting.
every year, I go to punchestown and have a jolly good time. Boy’s trip.
this year I got back home to find my mother in hospital, having had major abdominal surgery. My father, who has dementia, was in respite care. My eldest son had a tonsillar growth and had gone in for an urgent biopsy. Then my mother had a heart attack and my father caught covid and is now on end of life care.
im trying to look at the positives, the great days with my dad and Ferdy and nine de sivola. I bought him a share for his birthday many years ago.
but it’s like a great kick in the balls, and not without a fair amount of guilt being away racing in Ireland whilst all this was going on.
beer

You definitely can't tie your trip to the DRF together with the difficulties you and your family face. They are completely unconnected, and you have nothing at all to blame yourself for GV.

It's a very tough thing you're going through, but right now it's important that you're at your strongest, and you find every positive you can. Nine de Sivola is definitely one of them, but there will many more.

As an aside, I've known David Parry for a long time, and I'm sure you'll know Mike and Collette too? It's hard to go racing these days without bumping into the pair of them!

I was there with David the day that Nine won the Pertemps Qualifier at Warwick, and I seem to remember that David had an across the card double that day. I'm not certain which horse, but I think it may have been Haut de Gamme. Nine is also significant to me because David had a choice of two horses to buy at the time, and he and I had a discussion and I thought Nine would be the better of the two horses. Strangely therefore, you and I have a vague connection of fate!

Now's the time to spend some quality time with your loved ones. But don't forget to keep some time for yourself too. You need it. Sadly some of what happens next is inevitable, but as tough as it sounds, life goes on. Yours will, and so will your own family. What you will have though is countless memories. And I can tell you from one person amongst so many who go through this, that you should now make the most of what time you have left, however tough that may be, and when that time is up the memories you have are absolutely priceless.

[Saxon Warrior]

I’ve never posted anything on this thread, but always found it robust and comforting.
every year, I go to punchestown and have a jolly good time. Boy’s trip.
this year I got back home to find my mother in hospital, having had major abdominal surgery. My father, who has dementia, was in respite care. My eldest son had a tonsillar growth and had gone in for an urgent biopsy. Then my mother had a heart attack and my father caught covid and is now on end of life care.
im trying to look at the positives, the great days with my dad and Ferdy and nine de sivola. I bought him a share for his birthday many years ago.
but it’s like a great kick in the balls, and not without a fair amount of guilt being away racing in Ireland whilst all this was going on.
beer

Thats a rough run of fortunate for you and your family Guinness Village


I think it highlights the positives that you enjoyed so much beforehand too (as much as the recent downside) like your racehorse share with your dad.

The main thing I have done when having two or three bad things happening in succession, is not to see them as a collective run of mounting issues rhat could overwhelm me.

But to try and treat each one in isolation, as much as possible.

Something to focus on individually and to make the best of each one, even if they are hard to deal with.

Spending precious time with your dad.

Helping your Mums recuperation

Keeping your sons spirits up, when something has been found - it can then be treated, and be a positive pathway back to good health

Take care

Most of all

Thanks for sharing, keep doing that, please

[Kevloaf]

I’ve never posted anything on this thread, but always found it robust and comforting.
every year, I go to punchestown and have a jolly good time. Boy’s trip.
this year I got back home to find my mother in hospital, having had major abdominal surgery. My father, who has dementia, was in respite care. My eldest son had a tonsillar growth and had gone in for an urgent biopsy. Then my mother had a heart attack and my father caught covid and is now on end of life care.
im trying to look at the positives, the great days with my dad and Ferdy and nine de sivola. I bought him a share for his birthday many years ago.
but it’s like a great kick in the balls, and not without a fair amount of guilt being away racing in Ireland whilst all this was going on.
beer

Horrible run of events, any single one of them would be a lot to go through, so commend yourself on staying strong for yourself and those around you that need you at the moment.

I do agree with the others that the guilt is not really something you should be feeling

Thanks for sharing